Unraveling

I keep fighting the urge to write in third person. To distance myself from this reality.

My husband and I have noticed that my mother is withdrawing more than usual. She had a head cold a few weeks ago and that seemed to set her back mentally. I found her one day with her journal in hand, walking over to the wall calendar, staring at it. She asked me what day it was. Then she would check what she had written in her journal and look at the calendar again and ask me again. This repeated several times. I noticed while she was writing in her journal, she had a second book with her. It appeared she was checking things in one book and then looking at the other as if the "right answer" was somewhere to be found in one of them.

She was almost frantic at moments. Fixated on the task she had created for herself, she would not stop to eat lunch. As I grew concerned, I finally asked, "What are you doing, Mom?" She said she has a second journal that she keeps in her bedroom that she sometimes forgets to write in. I realized she was trying to copy from one book to the other. I quietly looked at the dates--she was trying to copy word for word three months of entries. A second journal... that does not make sense. In fact, her journal entries themselves are nonsensical.

June 8 Wednesday. Made coffee. Banana bread for breakfast. Liz left for college. Went to mailbox. Let the dog out to potty. Went to bed.

The next entry might be something like:

June 10 Thursday. Coffee, banana bread. Liz left. Dinner. Dog went potty. Went to bed.

The dates are not correct, nor are the days, nor are even the details. Who records that their dog went outside? And why does one need a second copy of a journal like this?

Sitting in her favorite chair in the living room, my mother attempts to copy entries from one journal to another. She worked at this self-created task for 10-12 hours Saturday, Oct. 4, 2014.

Her world is unraveling. She is frantically trying to hold onto it. That day I found her copying her journal, she sat in her chair doing this for 10-12 hours. She was mentally and emotionally exhausted when she finally went to bed. Since that day she has been quieter than usual. She has not wanted to visit her friends for two weeks--something that she previously insisted on doing. She is not eating as well. I see her world getting smaller.

I discovered this song written by another Liz. Her grandmother died of Alzheimer's disease. My mother is not in the late stages like Liz's grandmother... not yet. I cannot envision the day when I can sing all of these lyrics. But some of them ring true today.